This is a sappy love post to all moms and what being a mom means to us. Throughout our lives we’ve known all different types of moms; every one of them does life, loves, parents, celebrates, and relaxes in their way. Our ode to moms highlight some of our favorite moms, don’t worry we won’t drop any names.
Moms We Love At Kush Queen
You already know our mom is our favorite mom, but we got love for a lot of moms. By no means is this an extensive list of moms, think of these moms as the neighborhood moms, the characters that gave us our start.
The Stoner Mom
Some would argue the stoner mom is the most lit and the most chill. But what she needs to be appreciated for is her level-headed advice, owning her self-care and snacks. We all know moms who smoke and we know the stigma they face from society. Shonitria Anthony created Blunt Blowin Mama to address that exact notion. She says it best with “weed was my form of self-care before I became a mom, and that hasn't changed one bit now that I am a mom.” You can read more from Shonitria in Why Moms Should Smoke Weed.
First Time Moms
New moms have our heart. There is nothing like growing a human inside of you, truly there is nothing like it. The first months after giving birth, moms have a lot going on mentally, physically, and emotionally. We want to tell first-time moms three things 1) Don’t be too hard on yourself! Is your baby loved? Are you doing the best you can? Then you are doing perfect! 2) You are still you. Yeah, a lot has changed over the last few months but you will feel like yourself again. 3) Get support! This might be the most important one. The phrase “it takes a village” really hits home once your little one is running around.
Let’s hold space for first time or moms that have recently given birth. Check-in with them by sending a little care package that asks how they are doing. Trust me when I say it will mean the world!
As you get older, a beautiful thing can happen when your relationship with your mom morphs into a friendship. It's hard to imagine that moms still want to be friends considering all of the $hit we put them through during high-school and college but then again, a mom’s love is like no other. My mom has become one of my closest confidants but don’t get it twisted, she still steps in with “the look” when needed. I would say our relationship is two parts mom, 1 part friend.
Take a look at the relationship between you and your mother. Is it more of the perfect duo or guide/philosopher?
Regardless of where you and your mom fall on the friendship spectrum, letting her know that you appreciate her support and unwarranted fashion advice. Moms of grown-ups (ish) love dedicated time. Set up something low key and fun this Mother’s Day to let mom know you care.
Moms That Are No Longer With Us
Appreciation holidays can be the worst if you’ve lost a parent. It’s an awkward feeling that traps you somewhere between reminiscing and wishing more than anything that they were still here. Our love song to moms that have passed on is Louis Tomlinson’s Two of Us, he captures the sentiments of a lost love perfectly.
There is no right way to deal with loss on days when it's front and center. Give yourself space to hold feelings that you might typically push down. Honor what’s lost and what was had if you can.
The Moms Who Step In
If you’re lucky, then you’ve known the special mom-types who come to our rescue throughout life, gracing us with nurturing energy and taking us under their wing. It’s like they have an overflow of maternal love to give and can’t help but act as the mama bear each of us needs sometimes.
There’s the work-mom who shows you the ropes around the office and makes you feel supported. Then there’s the aunt or godmother who treated you like her own and could always tell when something was up with you, even when you didn’t. And there’s the friend’s mom who’s everyone’s mom—she embraces all of her kids' friends like they’re her own because she knows the value of chosen family.
Each of these moms holds a special place in our lives and deserve to be celebrated on Mother’s Day, so send them some love and let them know what they mean to you.
No matter what your relationship looks like with your mom, hold space for it this Mother’s Day. There is no such thing as the perfect mom, just appreciation for the moms in our life.